If you want your ex back, you should not do the things mentioned below. These are the mistakes that you should avoid at any cost if you want to get your ex back. Winning someone back will need them to fall in love with you again and that’s a difficult job to do. It also needs some time. You will need to avoid the following mistakes if you really want to get your ex back.

Do not go after him or her

You should never do this. If you keep chasing after the person instead of bringing the person close to you, it will force them to go away from you. You don’t want to be a creep. You will need to give your ex some space and time. It’s difficult but you will have to wait for some time before you make contact again. Do not stalk her or show up in different places which she frequents.

Do not contact your ex

You have broken up with your ex and just after that you start calling, sending IMs or texting him or her. This is a complete no-no. Try to avoid your ex for some time and give her or him some time and space. Avoid the places where you’re likely to meet your ex. You don’t want to accidentally bump into your ex. It is important to keep a way for some time so that your ex can wonder and think about you and what you have been doing during this time.

There is a time after which you can contact your ex and you need to wait for the right time. If necessary, you may need to initiate the initial contact but you should be very careful to do it at the right time and in the right way so that you are not making the other person feel being pushed.

Do not blackmail

Never ever blackmail your ex. Do not try to emotionally blackmail or threaten your ex in any way. This will not work. Who wants to be with someone who blackmails or threatens him or her? Nobody. And even if it works for some time, it is not going to last even a few months. Would you like to be with someone who blackmails you? That is not the way to win back your ex. You cannot force someone to love you by using any methods. You will need to create and nurture that loving feeling in that person’s heart. And that cannot be done by force. It can only be done by love and care. And you will need to show that love and care to your ex. You will need to show your ex that you still love and you really care for him or her.

Do not beg

If you really want to get your ex back you should not beg. Some people may advise you to do that because they will say you can take any action necessary to get your ex back. However, begging will not get your ex back, rather it will push him or her away.

This is a pathetic and desperate move. You don’t want your ex to come back to you just out of pity because that will not last long. No relationship can last longer when it is based on pity. You don’t want to be pitied by anyone else and specially not by your ex.

References

1. Hook Your Ex – New Ex Back Monster
2. Reasons for Divorce and Recollections of Premarital Intervention: Implications for Improving Relationship Education
3. Help Someone in an Unhealthy Relationship: Quick tips