Trauma. A sudden experience in your life that turns your life upside down. An event that surely has a significant impact on your future life, self, and decisions. The word trauma is automatically associated with the word pain and suffering. Checking the dictionary, trauma is defined as something that profoundly distresses or disturbs an individual.
Trauma can be experienced as early as childhood. If you check Freud's psychoanalytic approach, he stresses that the future decisions of a person are deeply rooted in his or her past experiences, and that future conflicts stem from past unresolved issues. He stresses to make the unconscious conscious which gives the person an opportunity to fix or resolve any issues that he or she has.
An adult who experiences pain is normal, and because he/she is already equipped with the knowledge of a mature mind, it is relatively easier to handle. But for a child to experience pain in the early stages of his or her life is something that can be very difficult and if not appropriately addressed can result in a dysfunctional adult. As a parent or a concerned relative, here are three things you can do to help alleviate the pain from your child's past.
- Build a support system.
A child who has already seen so much pain needs to feel that he/ she is loved by many. That despite everything that he or she has been through, he/she is still worthy to be loved and cared for. The pain that deep has already scarred a child for life and as an adult, it can be difficult to trust someone new and to love another person.
- Encourage him/her to step out of comfort zones.
Encourage him/her to step out of the shadow of a frightened child and be a brave adult ready to put the past behind. If he/she is an introvert, maybe it's high time to encourage him/her to be an extrovert and start building new relationships with co-workers, neighbors or new acquaintances. Inspire him/her to look positively into the future and make new goals and set new targets in life.
- Get professional support.
It is always best to seek professional help when it comes to mental health. Trauma is not something that we should take lightly as it does have a significant effect on an individual. Some studies have shown that a traumatic experience incapacitates an individual's social skills making it impossible for him/ her to relate successfully with others and the inability to manage emotions. Also at work, a traumatized individual has more trouble focusing on work and tasks because there are times when something as small as a pen triggers traumatic experiences and memories.
Extreme cases of trauma require therapy from a licensed medical professional. Rehab centers can also act as a guide (Silvermist Recovery) to traumatized victims. There are numerous therapeutic techniques that can be given to target specific traumas and causes. You just have to let your child, friend or relative to know that having experienced trauma is not his / her fault and he/she is just a victim.