Facing cancer is one of the worst battles a person must face, however, much has been said about coping with it. When people get cancer they feed off of it and it gives them strength that surprises everyone around them, however, being on the side-lines of the disease can, at times, be even worse. Watching a loved one with cancer is a pain that most humans have to face at some time in their life. Knowing how to cope with it when it strikes your family is difficult; there is no right way, but there are some things you can do to try and get through it together.
Make Friends with the Health Care Professionals
You will probably find yourself accompanying your loved one to the hospital and doctors surgeries every week/fortnight/month etc, and so it makes sense to try to bond with the nurses that you will slowly get to know. Going to the doctors with cancer is never fun, because you never know if you’re going to get good news, bad news, or no news at all. By being reassured by Betty the cancer specialist and her floral nursing badge, to discussing the latest Marvel movie with Steve, the trainee who takes the blood each week, you learn to look forward (a bit) to the constant visits and not dread them.
Busy Yourself by Being a Rock
Being alone and letting your mind wander is one of the worst things you can do because it will travel to ‘what if’ roads that you don’t want to start going down. The best way is to busy yourself as if life was normal. Go to work, do the housework, pick up the kids from school and act like a pillar of normality. By staying strong and acting out the everyday functions, the person suffering will be able to use you to prop themselves up, emotionally and continue with their own lives.
Embrace Your Family
Not a lot of people realize that family is the most important thing in a person’s life and in times of crisis, they are there to support you. Whilst you support the person who is ill, allow everyone else to support you and each other. Laugh and play and talk about the good times; don’t focus on the bad.
Think About Yourself
By focusing all of your attention on the person who is ill, you can lose yourself and the problems you face will always seem worse. You must ensure that you make time for the things that you love and that make you happy. Have some alone time and read a book or catch up on your favorite TV programme. Cancer should not dominate your life, don’t let it control you like that. By getting on with living, your loved one can relax, knowing that their situation isn’t (outwardly) dominating your life.
You need to be strong at times like this, not just for the person who is ill, but also for yourself and the rest of your family. Try to stay positive and together you can .